the trap

p-trap-sink-drain-pipe-6Last weekend, in the unending and ever-lovin’ spirit of Figuring Shit Out, I replaced the “J-bend” trap on my upstairs sink and then, as an encore, fixed a recalcitrant clog. The damn thing just wouldn’t drain, and when I tried to snake it, I popped a hole in the rusty bend that I then patched pronto with potent plumbing-repair putty, and yes, the excess alliteration in that phrase makes me very, very happy.

I knew the patch wouldn’t hold forever, so I had to replace the pipe. And I had to unclog the sink while I was at it. Hmmmm, I thought, crossing my arms in a reflective pose as a thought bubble formed above my head.

This was a simple job. I could see it was a simple job. I knew, if I called the plumber, that he would fix it within nanoseconds, do a little disco-dance across the bathroom floor and then charge me the cost of a small yacht, possibly a big one. So I figured, heck! I can do this! I have the power! I can do the disco-dance myself!

I’d be lying if I said part of this decision wasn’t motivated by pride. Being a white-haired widow, a single mom, a flying-solo femme and a stubborn dame, I often insist on doing things alone that I could easily and logically outsource to someone much more knowledgeable and capable than I. But I dunno.  I guess I have something to prove. I guess, being a white-haired widow, a single mom, a flying-solo femme and a stubborn dame, I live in fear of not being able to do things alone. And honestly, sometimes I have to; sometimes things require fixing at odd hours; sometimes, when the literal shit hits the fan and lands in my basement, and I have no choice but to grab a shovel and cope on my own.

So I bought a j-bend. I read the directions — thank God for directions! Then I bought thread tape to seal it — thank God for thread tape! Then, realizing I didn’t actually own a pipe wrench large enough for the pipe in question, I bought one of those, too, admiring its size and heft, the way it fit in my hand and enhanced my womanly strength and made me want to chew and spit chaw into a Dixie cup. I felt curiously empowered. I decided, once again crossing my arms in a reflective pose, that it would be my weapon of choice in the event of a zombiepocalypse, which, okay, might require some additional and creative F.S.O. But nothing I can’t handle.

The plumbing job was ridiculously easy.  It took whole seconds rather than nanoseconds, but it still merited a few nifty disco moves in celebration, and I felt profoundly relieved that I hadn’t bothered to call the plumber. A trickier task was unclogging the the pipe beneath the strainer, which had rusted into the sink and demanded intensive grappling with assorted tools, one of which slashed the knuckle of my left index finger in a moment of violent carnage that I failed to notice until gushing whorls of my own blood appeared in the water. (WHAT’S ALL THAT RED SHIT?, I wondered.)

Bleeding, I yanked out the strainer. I snaked the pipe. I hauled from its depths a blob of Tangled Hair and Other Revolting Sink Gunk (THORSG) that did not make me vomit but made me grateful, once again, that I hadn’t called the plumber. I bandaged my wounded knuckle. I replaced the strainer with a plastic one less likely to rust and gather future clots of THORSG. And I did a few more funky disco moves, but not for long, and only in my mind.

Later, I wondered about my propensity for stupidity and my thick-headed insistence on self-reliance. True, this time I didn’t need to call a plumber, but I certainly could have rung up a neighbor for help, and I certainly might have avoided the bloodbath in my sink. Several friends have offered to help with such things. But part of widowhood is the inevitable psychic push-back against the universe that put me in this spot. It’s the OH, YEAH? impulse, the urge to mouth off at the Powers That Be with bitchy outbursts of SO I’M ALONE, HUH? and YOU THINK THIS’LL BREAK ME? as well as the deeply satisfying, utterly childish I’LL SHOW YOU! PPPLLLLLL!!

Yep. I showed them, all right. I fixed the sink all by myself. Hurray for me. Pppllllll.

This is its own kind of trap, of course, and it accrues its own kind of THORSG. There’s a difference between being alone and being isolated, between independence and obstinacy, between acceptance of my current state and the rigid insistence on remaining in it. I’m alone now; refusing to reach out will only ensure I stay that way. And believe me, I don’t want to.

Still, when the zombiepocalypse arrives, self-reliance will have its day. You’ll find me on the porch steps with my pipe wrench, hefting its weight and spitting my chaw. I’ll be armed. I’ll be ready. Watch out, the widow is coming.

 

 

13 thoughts on “the trap

  1. Oh Amy I love your blog! I am Nils’ sister in law and have had to learn to do things on my own too! Thanks for sharing that being independent can be challenging but it does feel good especially when we conquer! Take care!

  2. Yay! Glad it worked out. Especially since plumbers tell me that a large and lucrative part of their business is fixing things that homeowners initially try to fix themselves. 🙂

  3. Do they still make Dixie cup dispensers I wonder? Love the chaw, also love the show “Ask This Old House” – even if I can’t fix it, I love to watch those guys work. This is why I rent a house, Amy, but hoorah for you. Now if you could just concentrate on the Cubbies winning the series….

  4. Just catching up this week – use-it-or-lose-it vacation time. I’m the designated clearer of THORSG, busy this past week with 3 sinks.

    I will be laughing until Jan 3rd….Wonderful!

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